Back in the Stone Age—remember the 1970s?—my senior advisor in graduate School, Harold Bessell, took up the mantle of feminism when he assured parents that girls could do anything boys […]
Why I Started Screaming in the Lobby of Chase Bank
It had been building for months, though even I was surprised by the fury of my reaction. I’ve never been a violent person, physically or verbally, but there I was, […]
Dads! Finding Your Daughter’s Friends Attractive Doesn’t Make You a Predator
It’s kind of remarkable how times have changed. Thirty years ago men rarely talked about same-sex attractions or confessed that they actually played around a little with boys when they […]
Learning to Cheerlead Our Partner’s Big Separate Lives
It’s perfectly safe to try this at home. 1. Take two paper plates—one representing you, the other your partner—and lay them on a table side by side. 2. Nudge them […]
Are You Poly Tribal or Poly Traditional?
I’ve been a member of the polyamorous community in Chicago for several years and am now starting to make poly friends in New Orleans. Both cities have poly discussion groups. […]