I was talking to a group of polyamorous friends recently when a woman made an interesting comment. She likened lovemaking with men other than her husband to fine dining—different, exciting, […]
Free Yourself from the Curse of Co-Dependence
I remember the moment a decade ago when a big chunk of education fell in my lap. It was at a workshop on strengthening relationships, during which facilitator Reid Mihalko […]
Learning to Cheerlead Our Partner’s Big Separate Lives
It’s perfectly safe to try this at home. 1. Take two paper plates—one representing you, the other your partner—and lay them on a table side by side. 2. Nudge them […]
I Loved Both of My “Failed Marriages”
Many myths linger in our culture about marriage. For instance … A good marriage requires compromise. Marriage necessitates choosing love over freedom. You have to work hard on your relationship […]
Relationship Magic: Shedding Expectations
Imagine what it would be like if your partner showed up each day, not because you wanted or expected him to, but because he wanted to. Imagine what it would […]